Cole Flanders on “The Family Table” series, discussing parenting and family life.

Key Takeaways

– Cole emphasizes intentional parenting, focusing on instilling concepts rather than just rules
– The Flanders family prioritizes Sabbath-keeping as a key tradition to pass down
– Cole balances demanding work as a Chick-fil-A operator with intentional family time
– Parenting resources like Paul David Tripp have significantly shaped their approach

Topics

Cole’s Family Background

– Married to Alicia for 9+ years
– Two children: 4.5-year-old daughter Hazel and 17-month-old son Alden
– Cole views his role as head of household, aiming to model Christ-like love

Family Traditions and Bonding

– Sunday morning “muffin makers” tradition with daughter
– Intentional about creating special moments, like chasing/playing after watering flowers
– Prioritize Sabbath-keeping on Sundays for family time and rest

Parenting Philosophy

– Focus on teaching concepts rather than just rules (e.g. respecting authority vs. specific “don’t do X”)
– Strive for consistency in parenting approach, even during vacations
– Openly discuss and admit parental mistakes/sins to children
– The ultimate goal is children’s relationship with Christ, not just worldly success

Work-Life Balance

– Navigated challenges during the Chick-fil-A leadership program while starting a family
– Intentionally chose home close to new store (1/3 mile) to maximize family time
– Recognize the intense time demands of the new store, but plan strategically as a couple

Parenting Resources

– Paul David Tripp’s materials are highly influential
– Impactful video on long-term parenting goals (mission field vs. “successful” life)

Advice for New Parents

– Remember children ultimately belong to God, not parents
– Admit weaknesses/mistakes to children, modeling need for Jesus

Next Steps

– Cole to open new Chick-fil-A store in December
– Continue intentional family time during the demanding store opening period
– Maintain Sabbath-keeping tradition in a new location