A special episode of “The Family Table” featuring guest Brandt Akin discussing fatherhood, faith, and raising boys.

Key Takeaways

– Intentional parenting involves leveraging everyday moments to teach values and build character
– Unstructured time is crucial for children’s development and problem-solving skills
– Preparing children for life’s challenges is more important than removing obstacles from their path
– Investing in marriage and maintaining date nights is vital for family health

Topics

Family Structure and Traditions

– Brandt is married to Morgan for 12 years with three boys: Luke (8), Will (6), and Eli (3)
– Annual “adventure days” during spring break: scavenger hunts, varied activities catering to each child’s interests
– Camping in the backyard as a memorable family bonding experience

Fatherhood and Masculinity

– Emphasis on preparing boys for manhood in a culture lacking clear rites of passage
– Weekly meetings planned for ages 13-18 to discuss faith, manhood, and following Jesus
– Focus on teaching respect for women, especially modeling through the treatment of their mother

Parenting Strategies

– “Figure it out” philosophy encourages independence and problem-solving
– Unstructured playtime is crucial for building resilience and creativity
– Celebrating milestones (e.g., Student of the Month) to reinforce positive behaviors
– Teaching responsibility through pet ownership (e.g., Luke’s lizard care experience)

Navigating Work-Life Pull

– Struggles with balancing pastoral duties and family time
– Strategies: putting the phone away when home, embracing children’s excitement upon arrival
– “Guys night” when mom is out, maintaining weekly date nights with spouse

Recommended Resources

– “The Intentional Father” book highly praised for parenting guidance
– “The Disciplines of a Godly Family” by Kent Hughes for structuring family life
– “Love and Respect” by Emerson Eggerichs for marriage insights
– Paul David Tripp’s book on marriage (formerly “What Did You Expect?”)

Advice for Parents

– Trust in your capability as the parent God chose for your child
– Don’t wish away difficult seasons; embrace challenges as opportunities for growth
– Be a person of integrity and teach children the importance of trustworthiness